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Golf Balls and Baby Elbows: Exploring Your Vagina

Writer's picture: LucyLucy

Something all people with vaginas should get familiar with is their vaginas. At least at some point in our lives, we should root around in there and feel what it feels like.


The Cervix

One time, I was in the shower and I decided to have a feel around. This was not a sensual moment at all, purely scientific. An expedition, if you like.



I had assumed a kind of half-squat, with one leg on the bath, the kind of squat you might do to shave inconvenient places. I ventured fairly deeply with two fingers, keeping an open mind to what I may discover.


Much to my surprise, I found a thing protruding into the space.

Panic arose...

'What the fuck is that?' I thought. 'what the FUCK is that?!'

Seriously, what the fuck is it. It felt like a warm, fleshy tip of a nose. I considered what it might be... it's definitely not a nose LMAO... could it be... have I left a tampon in there for weeks? Could I be pregnant?... oh shit, i thought...

Could I be pregnant? This thing... it felt like... a very small bent elbow... could this be a child inside me?


I finished my shower, full of panicked thoughts of baby elbows inside me, and dried off. Before these thoughts left my head, they felt like real possibilities.

I braved it, and I googled: baby elbow inside my vagina.

Up came an article most relevant to my search: What does the inside of a vagina Look Like?


I scrolled down, skimming the information that wasn't relevant until I hit the jackpot. Instructions 9 and 10 of a self-examination read like this:


  • To feel for the cervix, it may help to move to a squatting position.

  • Gently insert the finger deeper into the vagina to feel the cervix, which may feel similar to the tip of the nose.


OH MY GOD. SWEET RELIEF.

It was the cervix.


I was so effing relieved, but I also felt so stupid. How could I have thought that I was literally touching a baby's elbow inside my vagina, only 3-4 inches from the vaginal opening... the womb is much higher up than that.


I kid you not, I was 21 when this pulava happened. 21 years I had spent never having felt my cervix. It's a bit of a tragedy.


I blame my education. This is basic anatomy of our OWN bodies, that we live in, every day, for our whole lives, and we don't even KNOW them.


But we're here now, and we're learning, and now we can spend the rest of our lives knowing that the little nose inside our vagina is the cervix.



The "G Spot"

You may have felt inside your vagina to find the G Spot. It's less of a targeted "spot" and more of an area that can be stimulated. The G spot sits at the front of your vaginal wall. It's like under the lower belly.


To find it, you wanna gently slide your fingers in (try using lube), palm facing up, and then gesture a "come here" motion (slowly).


It has a different surface texture to the other parts of the vagina, it's rougher and bumpy, kind of like a golf ball or the peel of an orange.



Note: if you are getting fingered when you're lying down, and your intimate has long fingers (or they're just at a great angle), you might see the lower belly move with the pressure from the fingers. This is the G Spot pushing against the lower belly. It's a magical moment. You can do this yourself, it just might require above-average flexibility.


When stimulated, blood rushes to this area, and since it is made up of erectile tissue, it swells.

Pretty cool imo.


And listen, it's okay if you're not doing this sexually or sensually. Our vaginas serve multiple functions, pleasuring others is not one of them.


The benefits of getting to know your vagina:

  1. It makes it easier to accept and embrace your vagina

  2. You can find pleasure easier

  3. You don't have to worry if you're hoarding baby elbows or golf balls in there

  4. You can guide any partners because you have the map now

  5. It can help rebuild a relationship with your body that someone else may have taken


Here are some resources for getting to know your vagina:


However, the best resource you have is self-exploration.


If you've never ventured into yourself, it may be because of a lack of education, or a lack of belief that it matters, or perhaps it's triggering. Whatever the reason, I urge you to spend some gentle time with yourself to get familiar with your lovely, amazing vagina. They are incredible organs, and they feel wonderfully hilarious.


They deserve to be known.



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