I used to get annoyed at people who talked about how unfair their problems were — how ignored and invisible they felt. I told myself to stay quiet, not make a fuss, not complain. What I realised, though, is those quiet thoughts and loud judgements were more towards myself than anyone else. It took a friendship, and a slow burn of self-awareness, to turn that around — to start making space for my own story. And then, eventually, to start singing it loud.

Can you forgive someone who never apologised? I spent years refusing to ask. Here's what writing a song taught me.

recovery is usually defined as "getting something back" or returning to "normal", but this definition is stuck in the past and limits us.